“I’m an introvert… I love being by myself, love being outdoors, love taking a long walk with my dogs and looking at the trees, flowers, the sky.”
It’s OK to be an introvert! Our world is naturally extrovert-centric, and up until very recently, introverts got a bad rap. Naturally, introverts often feel the need to pretend to be extroverted more than they really are so they aren’t ridiculed for being a party-pooper. But after a while, you may have forgotten who you truly are. Here’s a list of behaviours that prove you are a closet introvert.
You feel like a fraud when networking:
Introverts hate small talk, which is a vital part of networking activities. If you feel something akin to a used car salesman no matter what the networking event is, you may be an introvert posing as an extrovert.
You feel out of place, even among a large group of friends:
Introverts much prefer one on one conversation rather than conversations with large groups, even if the group is full of friends. They often find the topic of conversation dull or not worth jumping in and talking for. However, when they are chatting with just one person, they can sway the topic of conversation to something that excites them.
You get overstimulated rather than bored:
Introverts are rarely bored because there’s always something new and exciting to think about. They may have several projects that they are interested in, though they tend to focus on only one at a time. They do, however, get overstimulated when there’s too much going on.
You’ve been told you are intense:
Introverts enjoy jumping right into the deep pool of conversation. They feel idle chit-chat is a waste of time and energy and will start a conversation off with a deeply philosophical comment or question. This can freak out an extrovert who just wants to have a good time. If you’ve been told you are too intense, you are likely a closet introvert.
You shut down when over-stimulated:
When there’s too much going on all around an introvert, they head for the hills to hide. When that’s not possible, they simply shut down. This zoning out gives their brains a break – it’s a mental retreat they take if a physical one isn’t possible.
You don’t run to answer your phone:
Introverts don’t like to be interrupted when they are thinking or working, which is most of the time. Since they aren’t the gregarious folks that extroverts are, they have to be in the mood to talk to people. And if they don’t feel like it when someone calls them, they will let the call go to voicemail. If you do this, it doesn’t mean you don’t like the person calling, but that you are in a rejuvenating space and need to be alone. You’ll call them later.
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