“When the negative thoughts come – and they will; they come to all of us – it’s not enough to just not dwell on it… You’ve got to replace it with a positive thought.”
Creating a pattern of negative thoughts and getting drawn into them is a prison of sorts and once it becomes a habit, it is difficult to break away from. Once you let yourself sink deep into the habit of negative thinking, you will find it difficult to make headway in anything.
Below are tips on how to deal with negative thoughts.
1. Pinpoint the exact time you started developing negative thoughts
It could be that you have developed a habit of being anxious, due to several experiences you had in your past endeavors. Perhaps, you were always told that you weren’t good enough or you faced certain tragedies. When your mind keeps recreating these thoughts as a reaction to something happening in your life, then you have become trapped in negative thought patterns. The best thing is to totally let go of the past events that tend to always sink you into the deep ocean of negative thoughts.
2. Stay mindful of the moment
Perhaps you worry and continuously think about mistakes, problems, or past events in your life that did not go the way you believe it should have gone. Or you are really worried about what the future holds. Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about failure in the future, savour the moment.
To become much more conscious of your present and be able to step out of negative thinking processes, detach yourself from events of the past and focus more on the present. Become aware of your present environment and try to notice everything around you. Enjoy the people around you. If you’re working on a task, then focus on it fully. If you are in a conversation, perhaps be aware of the moods of the other person, the laughter, etc.
3. Choose the thoughts you dwell on wisely – let them be positive rather than destructive
You can deliberately choose to change the things you think about, so it is constructive rather than destructive. Positive thinking helps you effectively face your daily situations. Here’s how to stop negative thinking in its place.
Choose to use your past bad experiences as a road map to avoiding similar mistakes in the future. Learn from your mistakes.
When you find yourself thinking negatively, immediately force yourself to list two positive things for every negative thought.
If you are sincere about thinking more positively, start a journal of positive things. Whenever you find yourself thinking poorly, get your journal and add 3 more positive things to the list. Every evening, and every morning either read several passages from your journal, or challenge yourself to add to it.
Soon positivity becomes a habit. Positive thinkers are happier and have greater success, because they are better equipped to handle adversity without becoming discouraged. Put these strategies on how to deal with negative thoughts to use and see the difference it can make in your outlook.
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