When you are at work, do you naturally migrate towards certain people? Have you ever asked yourself what it is about those people that attract you? Conversely, do you find you try to avoid people who are constantly complaining or don’t offer much help? You want to find people who are going to have a positive impact on your life. This is not just for work but every part of your life.
1. You get to choose who you surround yourself with so why not choose people who will improve your life?
You can’t help all encounters, but you can limit your exposure to people who don’t enliven you. That is your best course of action when you run into these types of people.
2. Find people who have integrity.
These are the people who you can trust to do what is right. They won’t throw others under the bus. It’s difficult to question people who have integrity. Another great aspect of finding these people is they will keep you in line should your integrity come into question.
3. It’s also good to find people who are energetic and willing to solve problems.
These people are the ones who will advance quickly in their organizations. You will recognize them as ones who do not come up with excuses and are always offering suggestions.
4. You want to align yourself with people who are leaders.
But, remember that great leaders are also good followers. They allow people to shine rather than dictate what others should do. You don’t want to find someone who is egotistical. By nature, the egotist is only looking out for himself (or herself).
5. Focus on the less obvious.
For instance, quiet people often have a perspective that boisterous people lack. They are often good listeners, and they only speak when what they say is worth saying. They won’t focus on insignificant matters. This is not true of all quiet people but try to find ones who have this insight.
6. Stay away from people who gossip about others.
It’s likely they are doing the same behind your back. These types of people will never be there for you when you need them. This usually stems from insecurities they hold. However, this is not your problem. If you can avoid them, it’s best to do so.
Action Steps to Take:
1. If there is a person you know or work with who you don’t want much contact with, limit your contact by sending emails instead of face-to-face exposure with them. If you have the power, get others to deal with these people.
2. Make a conscious effort to smile at people. You will attract good people when you do this. Make sure that the smile is genuine, however. People can see through phony actions. You won’t attract quality people if you do this.
3. Attend social events often. Try to schedule at least one per week. You can’t find the right people if you don’t hang out with people in the first place. By getting involved with social events, you will get the exposure you need to meet many people. Finding the right people is a numbers game. It also requires a certain amount of judging what these people are like which is a bit of an art form.